Can't

I can't help you if you won't help yourself.

if you destroy what is good
if you push away what you love
if you settle yourself to being in the place
           where everybody else owes you a solution to your problems

where you lose your sense of what is real
to feed the world as you think it ought to be.

I can't help you.  I tried and it didn't work.

That goes for both of you.